Lorraine Williamson
Spanish weddings are anything but reserved affairs. They’re rich, raucous, and reverent — a vibrant blend of religious symbolism, family pride, and regional flair. Whether held in a grand cathedral or a rural finca, the traditional Spanish wedding celebration is an immersive, full-day event that’s as much about community as it is about the couple.
Though civil ceremonies are growing in popularity, many couples still opt for a church wedding. Here, tradition runs deep. One of the most symbolic moments is the exchange of las arras — thirteen gold coins handed from groom to bride as a promise of shared prosperity. In southern regions like Andalucia, a lace veil may be draped across the bride’s head and groom’s shoulders, uniting them in a gesture of mutual devotion.
Two pivotal figures — the padrinos, typically the bride’s father and the groom’s mother — take pride of place. These witnesses don’t just sign the paperwork. They’re seen as lifelong guides to the couple, representing the union of two families as well as two individuals.
Cheers, rice and petals
As the newlyweds emerge into the sunlight, expect a chorus of “¡Vivan los novios!” — a jubilant shout meaning “Long live the bride and groom!” In a nod to ancient fertility rites, much like in the UK, guests traditionally shower the couple with rice. But as venues increasingly ban this for environmental reasons, modern weddings swap rice for rose petals, bubbles or dried flowers.
Style, symbolism and the wedding sword
The white wedding dress remains popular, echoing old associations with modesty and purity, but Spain’s brides are increasingly opting for ivory, blush pink or even bold statement colours. Meanwhile, the groom often dons a sharply tailored dark suit — with regional flourishes like a sash in Catalonia to signify heritage.
One unique touch that often surprises foreign guests? The cake is cut with a sword. This theatrical flourish, especially common in Andalusia and Catalonia, turns dessert into a ceremonial spectacle.
And for those lucky enough to be seated near the action, don’t be surprised if the groom’s tie is snipped into small pieces and sold to guests — a cheeky fundraiser and supposed bringer of good luck. In some places, the bride’s garter gets the same treatment, though the tradition is fading.
Food as a centrepiece
Spanish weddings are feasts in every sense. Aperitifs kick off with jamón ibérico, olives, and chilled vermouth. Then comes a procession of regional dishes — paella piled high with seafood, creamy gazpacho, rustic tortilla de patatas. Dessert often features crema catalana, the Spanish cousin of crème brûlée, its caramelised sugar top cracked with a spoon.
And the wine flows freely — often followed by a late-night gin and tonic or a glass of licor de hierbas for digestion and dance-fuel.
Music and movement until morning
Music keeps the party alive until sunrise. But the soundtrack varies depending on where in Spain you are. In Seville, sevillanas take centre stage. In Aragon, expect a lively jota. Head north to Galicia and you may even catch a couple dancing a bagpipe-backed muñeira. Each region brings its rhythm and character to the celebration.
Guest etiquette: What’s expected
Attending a Spanish wedding isn’t just an invitation to witness — it’s a call to actively celebrate. Guests are expected to arrive well-dressed, with a particular emphasis on elegance. For women, bold colours and hats or fascinators are popular choices; black and white should be avoided unless otherwise stated.
The ceremony is only the beginning. Spanish weddings often stretch into the early hours, so comfortable shoes and a stamina for dancing are a must. There’s no early exit without a proper goodbye — leaving before the cake is sliced is considered poor form.
And yes, you’re expected to bring a gift — but not a toaster or a blender. Cash in an envelope is still the norm, often handed to the couple directly or placed in a designated box at the reception. The amount tends to match the value of your dinner and more — typically starting around €150 per person, though it can vary depending on location and formality.
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Beyond the aisle: The rise of the pareja de hecho
Not every couple follows the traditional path. Spain recognises parejas de hecho — registered domestic partnerships that grant legal rights similar to marriage, including inheritance and medical decision-making. For many couples, it’s a more personal or pragmatic choice that still affirms their commitment in the eyes of the state.
A feast of love and life
The Spanish fairy-tale ending doesn’t close with “happily ever after,” but with “Vivieron felices y comieron perdices” — “They lived happily and ate partridges.” Once a dish of royalty and celebration, the partridge has long symbolised prosperity.
In the end, a Spanish wedding is far more than a legal formality or social event. It’s a jubilant gathering of generations, a declaration of belonging, and a chance to honour the past while dancing towards the future — preferably in heels, at 2.00 am, with a full glass and a heart still pounding from the last sevillana.
Sources: Campusele